Well, even then approaching her is quite difficult
Not all of this is always an issue but it’s always in my head whenever I try to approach anyone, even when I believe in myself and feel confident.
I’m insecure and girly. I want a girl to approach ME. I don’t want to approach a girl who wants to be chased. I want to be seduced, damn it. Unfortunately those goth girls are often one of the following: unattractive (nothing irks me more than a hideous girl who thinks she’s totally hot), tomboyish (I don’t like the masculine girl look–I like the feminine look), lesbians (bisexual girls don’t count here), sadistic dominatrixes (not being into S&M at all, this doesn’t work for me). and regardless of whether or not they are any of these things, chances are they won’t approach me, they’d probably prefer to approach a guy who pulls off the look better. (See, I can’t do a better job of pulling off the goth look because I can’t stand make up, can’t grow my hair long (trust me, it doesn’t work–I tried), I can’t find any good men’s gothic clothing that I can afford. I do all that I can but it’s just not enough.)
OK, so some of you know that I really want a gothic girlfriend. (Shallow? Certainly. But it’s a bit of an obsession, I’m afraid.)
For me, practically the only way to meet gothic girls is to go to a local gothic/industrial dance club. None are at my school, none are in my neighborhood. This is the only place where I ever see any.